At every stage of life there are bugbears– those things that irritate you immensely. For example when you’re a toddler it’s pretty annoying when your parent’s won’t let you have chocolate for breakfast. Or when you’re given a drink in a purple cup when you wanted pink. In fact, pretty much everything is annoying for you when you’re a toddler- hence all the tantrums. When you’re a teenager it’s annoying when your parents snoop in your room, or won’t let you go to a party. At this stage in my life as a parent myself I have many, many bugbears. So to let off steam, I thought I would write a post about them.
Here are some things that I, along with some of my fellow parent bloggers, cannot stand:
People parking in parent and child spaces in a car park. I mean, really, we are not wanting to park there to be “lazy”- it is safer, and stops us having to try to squeeze a child/car seat out of a teeny,tiny gap! We don’t want to prang doors- so let us have our big spaces! I’ll tell you the worst ones- parents who despite not having their child with them still think they can park in the parent and child spaces! You know better than anyone how inconvenient it is! Don’t do it!!
People giving your child food that you don’t want them to have (without checking if it’s OK first). Whether it’s a bag of buttons just before dinner, or some sweeties they aren’t allowed to have. Lately people seem to be giving Lily chewy sweets or lollipops a lot which we don’t allow. Cue the massive tantrum when I won’t let her eat them that could have been avoided! In some cases this can actually be dangerous as children may have allergies or be intolerant to certain foods.
Parents who refer to their children’s age in months for waaay too long. How old is she? “36months”- She’s 3. THREE. To be honest, I don’t see why it needs to be done past 11 months!? OK maybe 18 months (tops).
When parent’s of children older than yours do that annoying “Oh you wait until they’re (certain age) you’ll change your mind.. *smug look*” when they disagree with your parenting choices. Then your child reaches the age and you haven’t changed your mind- it’s so tempting to say “HAH! IN YOUR FACE!”
People who say being a stay at home parent is easy. Uh, no. Have you been around children? These little things that demand your attention 100% of the day, including when you are on the toilet. This can be one that is brought up in relationships too, for example if one parent is out at work all day they come home and expect to put their feet up, when the other parent is wanting a break from the kids! Working parents, stay at home parents, it’s both hard, so there!
People parking on dropped curbs or pavements. It’s up there with the parent and child parking space in annoyance level I would say- SO annoying. Something that probably never crossed your mind before having children and a buggy. But to have to put my child in danger by going in the road to get around a car that is parked blocking my way, or having to get this awkward buggy up a massive curb instead of a nice dropped curb is very annoying, dangerous, and inconvenient!
The classic annoyance- People without kids telling us sleep deprived lot that they’re tired. Oh I’m sorry to hear that you didn’t get your full 10 hours last night Susan, you only got a mere 6. Yesterday I sneezed and my eyes closed for a full 10 seconds so I’m feeling nice and refreshed. When people told me that they were tired during Lily’s 4 month sleep regression I think I did pretty well not to scream.
People without a physical need using the lifts when there is an escalator. The amount of times I have had to wait an extra 10 minutes because a load of students decided they were feeling too lazy to walk slightly further to the escalator drives me mad. Babies are not patient, and if I’m out and about trying to get somewhere I want to be able to get there as soon as I can– which means not having to wait for another lift. People not budging up is another thing!
When other parents make out that being a parent is so easy. I would love to be a fly on the wall in their house. Making out (especially through social media) that parenting is easy peasy, always happy and full of rainbows, I think is actually dangerous. It makes parents who are struggling (and aren’t we all most of the time) feel even more rubbish. Parenting is really really REALLY hard.
Strangers thinking it’s OK touch your newborn baby. Yes it’s nice to be friendly, smile, and everything by all means. But touching them with your unclean, stranger hands and probably both waking them from a nice nap and spreading their germs is not cool!
When people assume you are your baby’s Grandma/Grandad when you are in fact the parent. One that thankfully hasn’t happened to me, but knowing older parents who it has happened to- it is so dangerous to make that assumption as parents are often older nowadays. Just never assume!
Other parents questioning or judging your parenting decisions- you want to co-sleep? Breastfeed? Bottle feed? Give a dummy? Put in nursery? I say do it and ignore anyone who makes you feel judged or bad about a decision. You clearly made that decision for a reason and it is no-ones business but yours.
Cafes that don’t serve anything remotely baby/toddler friendly. The other day I went in to a cafe wanting some lunch for me and Lily. I asked if they did any children’s meals, I kid you not she looked at me and said “toast with butter?” Don’t push the boat out love, toast AND butter!? That would be spoiling her!
“Get her Dad to babysit” well, he is her father so it’s not really called babysitting it’s called parenting. Dad’s don’t babysit they just look after their child. This would bug me so much if I was a Dad. It bugs me anyway! Dads are not inferior parents!
People who have 5 kids, 3 cats, a dog and a hamster, yet still manage to keep their house spotless and “pinterest-worthy”- seriously, have they got a cupboard they just shuv everything in when they have people round? Or are they magic? Have secret cleaners? I don’t get it. But it makes me feel bad- so stop it!
What are your bugbears? Let me know in the comments! Thank you so much to everyone below who contributed to the list!